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Rev. Kris
Custom
Created Ceremony
This is the
most popular ceremony option and no two are ever alike. Many
of the multicultural, interfaith or themed ceremonies can also fall
into this category. New and creative ideas are welcomed. More
information can be provided during our initial meeting or by phone,
email.
Create a ceremony that expresses your thoughts on love and relationship and your spiritual beliefs. You simply make selections for each part of the ceremony from my website, write your own, or use some favorites you have found elsewhere. I arrange the parts and write transitional language so it flows nicely. Feel free to tell your story, personalize or to add cultural or spiritual touches.
Photo by Scott
Slattery Photography
The basic parts of a
traditional ceremony are shown below. Including all the parts
listed will create a 10-20 minute ceremony, depending upon the
length of your vows and readings. Click on the links above to get
to each page.
The Opening: The wedding ceremony opens with a welcome to all those in attendance and a brief acknowledgment of what is about to transpire. Sometimes couples choose that God, a Higher Power, Divine Energy or Spirit be called upon to bless the ceremony and the marriage. The opening can also acknowledge loved ones who have passed.
The Readings: Choose two or three selections to describe what is important to you in your relationship, convey your hopes and dreams for your marriage, provide a connection to a deceased family member, reflect your spiritual beliefs, or just talk about love. Friends and family can read the selections or I can read them all.
Minister's Words: In the minister’s words section I usually speak about love and relationship. There are four options to choose from. I could also do a reading or tell your story.
The Expression of Intent: This optional section includes questions for the couple that fulfill the requirements of the law and may also include questions about support and encouragement from friends and family.
Vows: You can write your own vows or choose some from this site or elsewhere.
Blessing of the Hands: If you like, choose a version for me to read prior to your ring exchange.
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Exchanging of the Rings: Choose what you would like me to say about the symbolism and significance of your rings. If you choose, I can also bless the rings. You declare your commitment to each other as your exchange rings.
Unity Ceremony: If you like, a unity ceremony can provide a visual representation of your union. Some examples are Unity Candle Ceremony, Sand Ceremony, Rose Ceremony, Wine Ceremony, Water Ceremony, Time Capsule, Oathing Stone, Truce Bell, Dove/Butterfly Release, Love Letter Wine Box or Handfasting. Several additional ideas can be found in my Reserved fro Booked Couples section of the website. I am open to other ideas and we can also create a unique ceremony just for you.
The Closing, Pronouncement of Marriage and the Kiss: I pronounce you married and you share your first kiss as a married couple.
New York
State law requires that you have a marriage license and
that you state in my presence and in front of least
one other witness that each takes the other as his or her
spouse. As far as I am concerned, the rest can be whatever
you want!
Your
ceremony can express your personality, spiritual beliefs, and
thoughts on love and relationship. Whether you are
traditional or non-traditional, religious, spiritual, an atheist or
agnostic there is a way to express yourselves as a
couple.
This link describes several ceremony types: Custom Created, Short and Sweet and Totally Unique..
Baby Blessing ceremonies celebrate your child’s unique spirit, promise your commitment as a parent; and can also welcome the child into your extended family, family of choice or a larger community.
Marriage is a commitment not to be entered into lightly. Through personal experience, research and interviewing couples and therapists, I have put together a few topics for discussion for couples considering marriage, located in the Reserved for Booked Couples section of my website. If you feel you would benefit by some spiritual guidance through these topics, I am happy to arrange fee based counseling or you can seek out a professional couples' therapist.
One of my couples told me that they also learned a lot by reading The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
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Kris
